Reverence for Other People

I have visited several places of worship in my life. Some are physically stunning and I am in awe of the structure and its aura. Others are humble and more utilitarian. I love the simpleness and the relaxed atmosphere. Why don't I sense "community", then, when I attend a service - no matter the religion?

I'll admit that I am wary. On the surface, I am friendly but I am not comfortable meeting new people. I could, conceivably, keep a surface-level relationship with most people forever. I think we probably all can agree.

The goal of any House of God is to "embrace" the assembled people that are open to learn or renew their beliefs. I believe they all attempt to do that. But, why does the pastor/rabbi/master ask us to turn to the person(s) around us and "embrace" them? Is this simple gesture meant to make us feel included? Does it force us to courteously acknowledge other people - somewhat like a mother shows her child manners?

A good spiritual leader would accept that this ritual is often empty of integrity. Instead, of asking us to greet each other during the service routinely, wouldn't a discussion about how we can more honestly greet visitors, neighbors, people who provide us services, and any other persons be more appropriate? Perhaps, challenging us to be the first to extend greetings and making the other person feel honored is a more heartfelt lesson than adding the greeting ritual in the service. A 20-second meet-and-greet is not enough. I try to act honestly and hope that my behavior is in sync with what I want to project - sincerity and genuineness.